About Us
After spending hours online looking for places to go, and ending up at bars which had been long shut down, I decided to create an up-to-date listing of where to go in Bangkok.
First of all, there isn't much. The gay scene as a whole here is not as separated as it is in the West. It seems that there was little to no 'lesbian scene' here, so much as a loose network of friends. There are three main places where lesbians go, but they also feel comfortable going to straight bars. That's not to say that there are not a lot of lesbians here, because there are! I see more every day than I would in a week in the west. They're out all over the place, and no one seems to care or stare. That's quite refreshing!
Two new all-girls clubs have opened in the last 6 months, and both are doing well so far. Check for details in the bars/clubs section!
Another thing to note is that 'gender roles' within lesbian relationships here are very defined. Typically there is the butch and the femme, and no room in between for the rest. In fact, the term 'lesbian' isn't even used here, instead a butch is called a 'Tom' (short for tom-boy) and a femme is called a 'Dee' (short for lady). Be prepared if you travel here to do a lot of explaining if you don't fit into either category!
I just read a very interesting book about Tom/Dee dynamics by an author named Megan Sinnott. She really helped clear up a lot of confusion I had (not to say that I'm not confused anymore.. but a bit less confused anyway). The book is called: Toms and Dees: Transgender Identity and Female Same-Sex Relationships in Thailand. Fyi: if you're based in Thailand, you can pick the book up at Kinokuniya for 625B, which is a lot cheaper than the Amazon list price.